Okay… But what about some sort of theoretical treatment? I thought I was perfectly alright with being ace until it destroyed three of my relationships (they wanted sex, and took my ‘no’ as a sign that I didn’t care about them, even though they all knew I was ace?). Now I’m engaged, to a non-binary man who loves me for everything I am, asexuality included- but I want to give him sex, because even though he won’t push it at me at all, I know it’s important to him. He deserves everything I can give, sex and all, but I just can’t get past my own issues enough to do that.
So my original question: Is there something I can do about my orientation so I can have a, quote unquote “normal” sexual relationship?
Okay… But what about some sort of theoretical treatment? I thought I was perfectly alright with being ace until it destroyed three of my relationships (they wanted sex, and took my ‘no’ as a sign that I didn’t care about them, even though they all knew I was ace?). Now I’m engaged, to a non-binary man who loves me for everything I am, asexuality included- but I want to give him sex, because even though he won’t push it at me at all, I know it’s important to him. He deserves everything I can give, sex and all, but I just can’t get past my own issues enough to do that.
So my original question: Is there something I can do about my orientation so I can have a, quote unquote “normal” sexual relationship?