Q: All my life I have never been sexually attracted to people (I’m 19 now) so I’ve never tried sex. But recently I’ve had sex for the first time, and I found out that I actually really like sex, it’s fun! But, here’s the thing: I’m still not sexually attracted to people. I never look at people and want to have sex with them, the thought just doesn’t occur, I don’t get turned on by people. But I do, now, get turned on by the thought of having sex (sometimes). Am I still ace?
Asexuality is about attraction.
You can want to have sex without being sexually attracted to anyone. There are many reasons to want to have sex, and “It’s fun” is a perfectly valid one.
You can enjoy sex without being sexually attracted to anyone. Maybe you like watching other people feel pleasure. Maybe you like the emotional closeness. Maybe you like that it feels good. Maybe you have other reasons. None of this requires the presence of sexual attraction.
You can be aroused by the thought of sex without being sexually attracted to anyone. That’s just your body’s way of saying “You’re thinking about sex. Maybe you’re going to have sex now. Let me get ready, just in case.”