Q: I’m a non-binary, AMAB asexual, and I wanted your take on this. Going through high school, I took comfort in the idea I was likely just more like girls than boys because society likes to paint girls as nearly asexual some of the time in the first place. Did you ever think anything differently about your gender in relation to your asexuality?

I never really gave gender much thought.  I knew that gender did not equal sex, and knew about transgender people, probably all the way back in high school, if not earlier.  And I knew it didn’t apply to me.  I never felt like anything was wrong about my body, and I never wanted a different one (Although, I will admit to being curious about what it would be like on occasion, but nothing beyond that).

But really, I mostly didn’t care.  I’ve never felt particularly “manly”, but I’ve never felt “girly”, either.  When I was younger, I was more interested in crafts than sports, but I attribute that more to being an uncoordinated nerd who sunburns easily than anything else.

For me, I don’t think there’s much of a connection between my gender perception and asexuality.