Q: I’m an acefluid female interested in males. I’ve been worried that I won’t be able to find a guy (when I start dating) who will respect that I’m acefluid. I would preferably only date an asexual guy, but only time will tell. If I can find a sexual guy who respects that I don’t wanna have sex, then I’d date him. I guess my question is this: are you only going to date asexuals or are you open to dating other sexual people?
Personally, I’m not really interested in dating anybody. It’s just not my thing. I had an opportunity to try to start something with an asexual person last year and none of it felt right. The one girlfriend that I had years ago was definitely not asexual.
I understand where this is coming from. Last year, I dated a guy for 3 weeks (yeah, didn’t last long) and one of several reasons that the relationship needed to be halted was because he didn’t understand that I was not interested in sex. Not so soon anyway. He wanted to make out, so we did. But I was not once into the mood and he just didn’t take the hint. (Just because you touch me where the nerves are doesn’t mean that I’m aroused!) I am not the girl who understands the term “sexually frustrated” but he was. He said he was willing to put up with it but I needed to let him go- for his and my sake.
But that doesn’t mean you need to restrict yourself to only dating other asexuals. You just need someone to listen. To you and your body. And based on my previous flings, I know there is someone out there who will make you feel like yourself in your own skin and understood.