Q: Well this is kinda weird to ask but it’s more for advice. I’m a teen girl who has has crushes in the past and the thing is that even though I crush on guys the thought of sex repulses me. I’ve been told multiple times I’ll grow out of it but at this point I’m 16 and nothing’s changed. Do you think I may be asexual?
I’m not terribly good at advice…
Asexuality is about a lack of sexual attraction, not about feeling repulsed by sex. Certainly, there are many sex-repulsed aces (and many of them cite their repulsion as being a strong factor in why they identify as asexual), but there are also many sex-repulsed non-aces. Sex repulsion alone is not the determining factor of asexuality. I’ve heard of people who thought they were asexual because of strong repulsion, but once they separated their repulsion from attraction, or overcame their repulsion in some way, they realized that they were actually sexually attracted to people, it’s just that the repulsion was masking it.
So, the question really boils down to attraction. Are you sexually attracted to these guys? If you could remove whatever negative feelings you have about the act from the picture, how would you feel?
Also, have you looked into romantic attraction or romantic/affectional orientations at all? You might want to read up on them and see if that helps you sort things out.
On the other point: By 16, the “you’ll grow out of it” argument is pretty weak. Pretty much everyone who’s going to feel sexual attraction would have felt it by then. Certainly, it can’t be ruled out, but it’s unlikely.