Q: Do you ever have sexual fantasies? If so, do you design them or are they subconsiously-sourced or are they the work of other people (a la pornography)? Do you find them arousing, enjoyable, and/or annoying?
Not really, but I have tried. I’ve never really been all that successful.
I don’t think I’ve ever had a natural fantasy that just came out of nowhere. It’s always been something that I’ve deliberately had to think about.
“I am going to have a fantasy now. I am going to imagine a sexual situation. I am going to imagine another sexual situation. I am going to imagine… Damn it, I lost my place and have to start over.”
Yeah, like I said, not very successful.
It takes a lot of mental effort to try to conjure up a fantasy and keep it going. The more complicated and detailed it is, the more difficult it is. With all the effort involved, it typically ends up more distracting than arousing. Typically, I can only manage a few seconds at a time, so it’s just not worth it.
It was always strange to me to hear people claim that masturbation required sexual fantasy, because I managed just fine without them.
I can never mentally put myself into a pornographic scene. It just doesn’t work that way for me at all. I can’t imagine myself involved in that way.