Q: What’s the hardest part about running a website about asexuality? What’s the best/worst response to your website (or book) you’ve received?
The hardest part is definitely finding the time and motivation to work on them. Lately, I seem to have gotten in a pattern where everything I do is a large project that takes a long time to complete. I end up devoting a month or two of my time, and by the end of it, I’m burned out and don’t want to do anything for a while.
And so I take six months off.
WhatIsAsexuality.com was supposed to help with that somewhat. There I was intentionally turning the site into bite-sized chunks that I could churn out in a few days. That way, I could maybe get one or two out every month.
It hasn’t turned out that way.
Now, about the second part…
Best Response: Every time someone mentions how something I’ve done has changed their life or made them realize that they were asexual or helped them explain asexuality to someone else. That sort of thing is why I do what I do. It is good to know that the effort is worthwhile and that I’m changing the world for the better in some small way.
Worst Response: Leaving aside the hate and the trolls, the worst responses I’ve gotten are the ones that take a minor wording issue, and instead of helping me fix the issue, they go on a angry tirade about how I’m THE WORST THING IN THE WORLD. And they tell everyone how horrible I am and how everything I do and have ever done and will ever do needs to be destroyed. And never mind that I’ve posted several times, looking for feedback on the troublesome wording. (I’ve even been attacked when I’ve been looking for feedback!) And never mind that there are two diametrically opposed trains of thought and that no matter what you say, you’ll make one of them unhappy. And never mind that it’s a handful of words out of several thousand, on a topic that is completely unrelated to what people are taking issue with. It makes me wonder why I should bother. What’s the point of doing any of it if you’re guaranteed to be attacked at the end. Far too many people think that “activism” means “screaming outrage the loudest”, instead of actually working towards changing things.
Yeah, the worst thing for me about coming out to some people is their screaming. Why tell these people who will just end up attacking me?
I want to thank you for all your hard work.