I am not broken. I am not alone.
We are not broken. We are not alone.
Ever had an ace meetup and wanted that extra something to make it special?
Ever wanted to decorate something with a lot of little pieces of asexual pride?
Ever wanted to stake your claim to a sandwich?
Well, now you can!
Introducing Ace Toothpick Flags!
The do-it-yourself solution to all your ace pride needs!
(Or at least some of them. The ones that require toothpick flags, anyway…)
You just need a printer, some scissors, some toothpicks, and a glue stick (or sticker paper)!
What can you do with Ace Pride Toothpick Flags?
Really, what can’t you do?
A couple of weeks ago, I tried to make an ace tie-dye shirt and failed miserably. So, I tried a different (and simpler) way of being crafty and made this ace bracelet. On the bright side, unlike the shirt, I can wear this every day.
It’s made of 6/0 “E” beads with an elastic string through the middle.
This is the Asexuality Flag.
The need for a flag was driven primarily by the desire to have a symbol that belongs to all of us, something that we could use to identify as ace and represent asexuality with that was not tied to a specific group. Prior to its adoption, people would use things like the AVEN triangle or a half-filled heart, but those had problems which prevented their wider adoption. The AVEN triangle is, well, the AVEN triangle. It’s the logo of a single website that not every asexual person is affiliated with. The half-filled heart implies romance, which meant that many aromantics were uncomfortable using it.
In the Summer of 2010, a number of asexuality sites, led by users on AVEN, came up with a number of designs for an asexuality flag, then held a multi-stage vote to determine the winner.
The selected design was created by AVEN user standup, and first posted at 4:36 PM on June 30th, 2010.
Some of the other designs included hearts and spades and triangles and all manner of other symbols. Some of the designs looked like country flags. In the end, the simple, four-bar design was chosen. This design avoids the unwanted connotations that specific symbols like a triangle or heart might have, it avoids any hint of national affiliation, and perhaps most importantly, it fits in with the striped designs of most other GSM pride flags.
(Plus, it’s really easy to draw.)
The four colors all have meanings:
- Black: Asexuality.
- Grey: Grey-Asexuality and Demisexuality.
- White: Non-asexual partners and allies.
- Purple: Community.
Since the flag was selected in 2010, its use has exploded. You can get buttons and bumper stickers and clothes with the flag on it. It’s been seen at pride parades around the world, and some flag makers now offer it for sale. Many asexuality related websites or blogs now incorporate the flag into their design. And, of course, people have even made ace flag cakes. Additionally, the black-grey-white-purple color scheme has been adopted by many aces as a way of indicating their asexuality. I’ve seen ace shirts, ace nail polish, ace friendship bracelets, ace headbands, and ace scarves. Even the logo of this site incorporates these four colors.
For more information:
You can trace the progression of designs and the voting process through these threads over at AVEN:
Here’s some shots of the flag in the wild:
So… This is really hard to say, but I feel that I have to tell the truth. You all deserve to know.
I don’t really like Doctor Who.
There. I said it. I’m awhovian.
I don’t hate Doctor Who, I just don’t really care for it. I know I’m supposed to. Everyone else does. I’ve tried to like it. There’s been the black and white ones, the ones with the question mark umbrella, the ones with the bow-tie, and the ones with the guy that played “The Actor” in that episode of People Like Us. I even had a Doctor Who book that taught me about Timelords and Tardises back when I was ten. But none of them grabbed me. I just don’t feel it.
Sometimes it’s difficult to be around ”normal” people when they start talking about River Song or Daleks or Time Travelling Telephone Booths. I just don’t understand them. Sometimes, I feel broken and alone.
Regarding other “ace” things…
I think our flag is kinda ugly. It’s great that we have one, I get the symbolism, and I’ll use it where appropriate, but come on… Black and white and grey and purple bands? Looks a bit like a broken Atari game. But still… It’s mine, it’s ours, and I’ll take it. Plus, the colors themselves are fairly distinctive.
Cake. I like some cake. Not all cake, but some. I tried to get a cake for AAW in order to celebrate. Unfortunately, they don’t seem to sell cake for one. So I had to get a big unfrosted cake and some frosting to go with it. That meant I had to try to put frosting on the cake. I failed. I also thought about bringing the cake into work, but I realized that I didn’t have any kind of cake transportation device, so I’d have no way to frost it at home and still get it to the office without creating a huge mess. So much uneaten cake. Sad.
(Now I’m reminded of the “Celebrate with Cake!” ads from GTA San Andreas…)
I’m not a ring person. I tried wearing a black ring all week and I hated every moment of it. It felt like everyone was staring at it, which, I guess they’re supposed to do, since it’s for visibility and all, but… It just felt weird. It seemed like it was in the way all the time. And my fingers just aren’t built for rings. No one mentioned it, either. Next year, I’m going to have to find a bracelet or something instead, because I don’t think I can do the ring again. (The ace shirt, however… That one I can do, even though it’s not my typical style.)
Then there’s cuddles. Not a big fan of cuddles. Even with kittens. (Kittens themselves are okay, though.) Cuddles were often uncomfortable for me and I usually felt like I had to fake interest in them.
Anyway, this concludes my Asexual Awareness Week series. Stay tuned in the future, when I return to my ordinary question-and-answer/wall-of-text posts. Thanks for reading!