Black Rings

Some people will wear a black ring on the middle finger on their right hand in order to signify that they are asexual.  There’s no particular significance to the color or finger selection.  Black was chosen because it was a neutral color, while the right middle finger was chosen largely because a ring on the left middle finger would clash with a wedding band or engagement ring on the left.

Most of the time, the ring is a plain black band of some sort, made out of plastic, stainless steel, or hematite.  Some people will opt for a fancier design, with an “Ace” symbol, or with purple and grey highlights.

The black ring symbol began in a thread on AVEN in June of 2005: http://www.asexuality.org/en/index.php?/topic/9175-show-your-pride/

31 thoughts on “Black Rings

    • If you intend it to be used for semi-covertly identifying yourself to other aces, I would recommend wearing it on the right middle finger. Otherwise people will think it’s just a black ring.
      However, if you want to wear it for your own personal reasons, then the finger doesn’t matter.

  1. I have heard that the black ring also identifies swingers. If I wore one, how likely would it be that I would be misidentified?

  2. I’m not out (to most people), and I like my black tungsten carbide band as a private symbol, just for myself.

    https://goo.gl/photos/6b1K5FMhWX2RsP4Z9

    Nobody has recognized it, though I love the idea of it being like a secret ace handshake. But the heavy, very-black carbon-ness of it has many meanings for me, indirectly related to my asexual identification, and I wear it all the time, with pride.

  3. I have this black ring that I found at home. I am not sure if it is TECHNICALLY the asexual ring. It is silver with tiny diomnds imprinyed on it, and big black diamonds too. Would that count?

  4. My brother asked me out of the blue one day, are you asexual? I didn’t know what to say. I wasn’t sure what that term meant. So I did my research, and got the answer to his question. Yes, yes I am.

  5. I wear a lot of rings, about 9 total (2 on my left middle finger, 1 on my left index finger, 2 on my left thumb, 1 on each right hand finger except my pinky)
    Since only the right middle finger ring is black, would other aces know what it means, or is so too subtle with the other rings?

    • I think it can be recognized. But since there are a bunch of other rings you’re wearing, it might be seen as more of a fashion statement. But I don’t think that should be a problem, you should wear whatever makes you happy : )

  6. I recently found a black ring with a silver border around it. I came out as an asexual about a year ago and have been wanting a pride ring since then. This ring I found now doesn’t fit after my first knuckle, should I still wear it to identify myself to others, or would it cause too much of a clash wearing it? Hopefully, someone can help me out with this matter.

  7. I’m an asexual biromantic and I wear two rings on my middle right finger. Of course one is a black ring to identify as asexual. The other ring is just there to stop the black one from falling off as I find it hard for rings to fit me. Is that still okay??

  8. I recently completely realized that I’m ace (yay!) and I’ve been looking into a ring, I don’t just want a simple black ring bc that doesn’t really go with my style and I want something a little blingier. I found this ring that is a black ring with white stones inlaid around the whole thing, so it’s basically a bunch of white stones held together by a black base with small black lines above and below the row of stones and I was wondering if that still counts? Like. Will other aces recognize it? Or should I go for a different one? There’s black surrounding every stone so it isn’t like the black is hidden, it’s very apparent and to me at least it looks like more of a black ring rather than a silver one compared to if the colors were reversed with a silver base and black stones.

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