[This is part of a series on opportunities for ace activism. See the masterpost here.]
We’re largely stumbling through life without a script. There aren’t role models to follow, coming of age movies with Important Lessons™ about us, there’s no body of precedent for how to life a successfully asexual life. We’re all cast upon the seas to find our own way, without even a “Good Luck!” to start us off.
How can I date if sex is off the table?
Can my marriage be saved?
I want to try sex, but I’m not sure how?
How do I deal with my nagging relatives?
What are my options for having children?
And most importantly, how in the hell do you build Ikea furniture by yourself?
There are hundreds more questions like these that aces ask every day: about relationships, about sex, about life in general.
But here’s the thing. There are enough of us who’ve been doing this for long enough, that there have to be some procedures and practices that work and some that don’t.
We should start collecting and collating and sharing that advice.
Now, I know there’ve been some bad asexual advice sources here and there, and it’s important to avoid the pitfalls and traps that they’ve run up against. But I think it can be done. I’m imagining something here that’s less “We’ll answer all your questions even if we don’t know the answers”, and more lifestyle magazine “Ten tips for shopping at Costco as a singleton” type articles.